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Cheap or Quality Friendships?

Cheap or Quality Friendships?

I’ve thought about this a lot this week with one incidence in mind particularly.

Friendships are like most things, you get what you pay for and you know when you are on the cheap end of a relationship.

No we don’t ‘pay’ for friendships although some may try to buy you. We pay with our precious time.

Friendships and valuable relationships are those that you want to invest time in and like all things that are worth having they take effort.

You’ll recognise the cheap relationships easily enough;

  • they only contact you when they want something
  • they want you to do things that do not sit well with you
  • their values differ from yours
  • they take what they can get with no fairness or thought of repayment
  • you feel under pressure to agree to their plans or ideas
  • they are not actually interested in your values or ideas
  • you find it hard to say no to them
  • they will try to put you down to make themselves look big

Honestly you do know what a quality friendship is but here’s some thoughts;

  • you feel equal in the relationship
  • you are able to share your good times and they will celebrate with you
  • you can share bad times and feel their support
  • you can agree to disagree without compromising your friendship
  • they share similar values and would never ask you to go against yours even if they do not share them
  • they will always make time for you and you know you can call them day or night
  • they are genuinely interested in who you are as a person and will listen and ask questions
  • likewise you are genuinely interested in them as a human being
  • you know confidences are safe because you both share them
  • you laugh with your whole being when you are together and when you cry they will hold you in their arms until you let go

I started talking about investing in your friendships- who is ‘quality’ in your life? What about sending them a message now to say how much they mean to you. Even if it’s been a while, just a quick “been thinking of you, how are you doing? I miss out time together” may be enough to brighten their day and yours.

And don’t waste your precious time with ‘cheap’ people. Life’s too short.

“You make friends by being a friend”

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