21 Sep How to Gain Confidence by Deleting “Friends”
A young client of mine was having a terrible time with her confidence and like so many others thought everyone else was having an awesome time. Why? Because of Facebook. Seeing all her ‘friends’ apparently out having the time of their lives.
We chatted about the friends she followed and it turned out she wasted a lot of time and her personal energy looking at posts of people who she didn’t even like! And that’s the thing- how much of this precious life do you waste looking at ‘stuff’ that you really don’t care two hoots about?
Anyhow, it occurred to me that over the years I too have collected friend requests as I’ve attended courses and events and so looking over my ‘friends’ I didn’t know who many of them were or haven’t had any ‘REAL’ contact with them in years and have no intention of doing so again. Somehow there has become some badge of honour about having a ton of ‘friends’.
“ Friend: a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard. A person who supports, a keeper of secrets, someone with whom you can laugh or cry, someone who knows all about you and loves you anyway” Sent to me by a dear, dear friend. How many on Facebook is this true of?
It’s no good helping others well-being if you don’t use your own advice, so 5 very fun and liberating minutes were had unfriending all those who no longer contributed to my life or me to theirs. A bit scary, but like any decluttering, very, very therapeutic. Would you like to have the courage to clear out the unhelpful people in your life and move on? Try your social media to start!
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